Divorce is a big deal for the spouses going through it, but it might be an even bigger deal for their children. Kids are told repeatedly through society and entertainment that a family should have two parents who live together and love one another deeply. The concept of parents separating and possibly even growing to despise one another is hard for a kid to wrap their head around. Your little ones are bound to have some questions when you tell them you are divorcing. Will you be ready to answer them?
QUESTIONS YOUR KIDS WILL PROBABLY ASK ABOUT DIVORCE
- “Will I have a new home?”
You will probably notice a trend in your child’s questions is they will mostly be geared towards how the divorce affects them in particular. Children tend to understand that a divorce means two houses, so one of the top questions is about where they will live. If you can confidently anticipate the allocation of parental rights in your divorce, then you may be able to tell them about an expected living situation upfront.
- “Are you divorcing because of me?”
This question is fairly common and extremely heartbreaking. Teens in particular can feel a misplaced sense of guilt during their parents’ divorce. Prepare some responses ahead of time that do not divulge too much detail as to why you are divorcing.
- “Do I have to change schools and lose my friends?”
Changing schools might be necessary if you are moving to another neighborhood or county and get physical custody of your child. “Losing” their friends, though, does not have to happen. Reassure them that they can still see their friends for hangouts or playtime. They might even be able to spend time with their friends through online gaming, if there are age appropriate online games they enjoy.
- “Will I still get to see you?”
This question will be prompted to the parent who is losing parental rights, for one reason or another. Family law courts do not like to entirely remove a parent from their kid’s life, if it can be helped. Discuss with your child how a visitation schedule will let you see each other still after the divorce finalizes.
- “Are you going to get back together?”
Your child may also ask if you and your spouse plan on getting back together again in the future. They do not understand the awkward situation this question poses, so try not to get too flustered. It is likely best to quickly explain that you do not plan on that resolution.
The questions your own child asks you about your divorce could start raising questions of your own. If you find you need any help or guidance in your divorce or family law dispute, come to Weis Law Group. Our Columbus family lawyers are led by Attorney Amy Weis, who is a certified family law specialist and Super Lawyers® member. Let our experience be your support system during this trying time by calling (614) 732-5566 or contacting us online.